This nine-week online course and interactive group study will be presented from a Tibetan Buddhist perspective, inviting a unique conversation and exploration in planning and training as a practitioner for the time of dying.

Using a 10-part comprehensive template, called a Spiritual Care Directive, we will start with creating a Dharma Vision and journey all the way through the 49 days following death.

This process is designed to clearly and practically write down wishes and reflections as an act of kindness for ourselves and others.

In preparing for dying and death, we deepen and clarify our daily practice and inspire the lives we live.

As a group, we will explore topics, ideas and aspirations in such a way that we seek out specific instructions from our own teachers and lineage traditions. As we may be coming from different lineages and different levels of practice, the course will offer structure and planning to be personalized by each practitioner.

As an End of Life Coach, Rhonda LoPresti presents this course not as a teacher of the dharma, but as a gatherer of dharma friends to hold safe space to share, inspire, and develop community on the topic of dying.

This Course Includes: 

10 STEP JOURNEY

What is a SPIRITUAL CARE DIRECTIVE? This is a document that invites you to write down your spiritual wishes and instructions for the time of dying. Like a medical care directive, it communicates what is important to you and appoints someone to act on your behalf when you may not be able to speak for yourself. We will move through this 10 part journey in applying the dharma to dying for ourselves and/or the dying of a dharma friend. This Spiritual Care Directive PDF will invite you to take practical and clear action in writing down your wishes. Our group goal will be to have this directive completed by the end of our 9 weeks.

DHARMA VISION – We will open the session by meditating on the inevitability of our death and taking death to heart. We will discuss what death may ask of us and look honestly at how prepared we may be. This will be an opportunity to reflect on the criteria of dying as a practitioner and what would support that vision.

ASPIRATIONS – We will share traditional aspiration prayers as well as compose our own personal aspirations for the time of death. We will draw together our experiences as a community. It will inspire you to seek out, collect, clarify, and encourage your practice of these prayers from your own lineage.

SPIRITUAL ADVOCACY / DHARMA FRIENDS –  We will discuss the importance of choosing a Spiritual Advocate or Dharma Friend who can partner with us through the dying process. At our most vulnerable time, we will rely heavily on our loved ones. As an act of kindness creating a Spiritual Care Directive will give them the guidance and direction they need to ease their hearts and offer meaningful dying and death care.

CREATING OUR DHARMA BOX – We will share what ritual items may be supportive at the time of dying and build a dharma box. As a practitioner, certain items may create auspicious conditions for the time of dying and it can be beneficial to be prepared in advance. 

ACTIVE PHASES OF DYING – This will be an opportunity to explore the natural phases and signs of dying, as well as explore the dissolution process of senses and elements as it is described in Tibetan Buddhism. By becoming familiar with these natural processes of dying, we may be able to recognize these stages and meet them with greater grace and confidence. We will explore the merit of suffering and how we can bring what death asks of us onto the path.

MOMENT OF DEATH – We will share opportunities for learning more about phowa, the inner and outer respiration, and the three subtle bodies. By opening this conversation we will raise our awareness of these teachings and empowerments and seek them out from our own teachers and lineages. We will explore the varying perspectives on organ donation.

THREE DAYS FOLLOWING DEATH – We will explore what is happening in the days following death, how the dead body is sacred and what may be happening during this phase of entering the bardos. We will discuss the structure of bardo prayer sets. This session will include an overview of the home funeral and how to preserve the sacred body at home.

DISPOSITION OF BODY – We will discuss the importance of choosing your disposition of body, the ceremony of shrouding, compassionate transportation to crematory or burial site, and green deathcare. Together we will review and share prayers and chants for the cremation or burial ceremony.

49 DAYS – We will share prayer options for daily, weekly intervals during the 49 days and inspire each other to identify prayers from your own lineages. We will practice sponsoring prayers and review the Sur incense offering for those traveling in the bardos.

DHARMA WILL – We will review the importance of writing a Dharma Will to assign our dharma items to our dharma friends or centers.

DEDICATION AND CLOSING

Who is this Course for?

• You know preparing for death is important and yet you keep putting it off.
• You have spiritual practices and prayers that you want to organize for the time of death.
• You are worried that your family or friends would not know how to fulfill your spiritual wishes at the time of death.
• You would like a guide or template to support and inspire you in clarifying your specific wishes.
• You would like to create a plan for death as an act of kindness for your family and friends.
• You would like to support a practitioner or dharma friend in fulfilling their dying wishes.
• You want planning for death to inspire your current practice.
• You would like to connect with resources in your community to support your dharma vision for dying.
• You feel far from your teacher and monastic community and want to create a support system where you live and will die.
• You are looking for a community of practitioners to hold safe and loving conversations in preparing for dying.

Tiered-Prices

Tara Mandala is working to expand opportunities for access to Buddhist teachings and practices while offering an equity-informed fee structure when possible. With our new tiered pricing, we strive to make the Dharma more accessible to all while furthering the important conversations that must happen around current structures that inhibit equal access to underprivileged communities. We encourage you to select the registration tier at the highest level within your capacity to assist Tara Mandala in covering the costs of offering these wonderful teachings while also benefiting from access to the recordings of the teachings. We thank you in advance for your support and your practice!

$519 – Tier 1 
Registration at this level covers the basic costs for this course and allows Tara Mandala to maintain sustainability.

$622 – Tier 2 
Registration at this level covers the program costs for this course and provides additional support for the year-round work of Tara Mandala.

$337 – Access Level 
Registration at this level is offered at 35% below the cost of holding this course to assist participants with financial limitations and encourage the exploration and practice of dharma.

Offering dana to the teacher: The practice of offering dana, which means “generosity,” is the traditional offering the student makes to the teacher as a symbol of appreciation, gratitude, and reciprocity for receiving the precious teachings. Information on offering dana to the teacher will be provided during the online program. To learn more about dana and suggested dana ranges, please click here. 

Payment Plans and Financial Assistance

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Sustaining Sangha:

If you are currently a member of our Sustaining Sangha, you may apply your Online Course discount to this course.

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Program Schedule

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9 Presentation Sessions 
Tuesdays: July 12th-September 6th
6:30-8:00pm (MT) 

8 Live Discussions 
Fridays: July 15th- Sept 2nd
1:00-2:00pm (MT)

Access to the recordings will be available for one year.